The Relationship of Your Future - When? How? Why?

The mystery future relationship that you are looking forward to - When is this person supposed to arrive? The person that will sweep you off of your feet and make your heart flutter, and will have you losing sleep thinking about all of the wonderful things you'd like to share.

No really...when is this person going to show up? Why is it taking so long?

I'd like to propose to those of you who are in good spirits consistently... it's right around the corner. For others experiencing some struggles, it may take a little bit longer.

Do not despair. There is more than enough love in the world for everyone. Including you. Have faith, be open, and please read on...

It's only a matter of time that love will cross your path the way you have dreamed it to be, and quite frankly, it's really a matter of when you want to create it. How is this?

Dear Spirits,

Reflect back at the times in your life when you achieved something you really wanted, and it was so important to you that failure was not an option. Everything; no matter what the struggle, was not as important as achieving what you set out to do.

And you did it. You created it. It was in your hands all along. EXCELLENT WORK!

What the message here is, is that anything you want to achieve is not going to be handed to you. It is up to you to create it. If it is love that you want in your life, there are some things that need to be put into play for the process of magnetizing this perfect person into the material world to begin. Stop dreaming about it. Get clear that this is what you really want and make it happen. How?

If you are focusing on your career, if you are focusing on paying bills, keeping the house clean, taking care of your children or family, and you have little focus or attention towards creating a relationship except hoping that one will just fall out of the sky, the probability that you will succeed to even see a potential relationship if it was staring you in the face, is quite minimal.

If making room for a relationship is what you do in your spare time after everything else during the day, it will remain the minimum priority that you have placed on it. A minimum priority is what you have made it. It is the signal you are sending out to the universe, based on your actions, and based on the results: "It is not my priority". You might call it a priority, but when it's at the bottom of your priority list, you can expect that it will arrive later than sooner.

If you are sitting behind a desk, dreaming, hoping and praying for love to come into your life, is it possible that it might be a bit delayed until you get outdoors to see what potential is out there? If your heart is still aching over a relationship that is gone, you cannot move forward until you let go.

Getting out and making it happen because you want it to happen, because you say so, is the way that it works. Not only for love, but for most anything in life.

What it takes to create a relationship is to make doing it a priority, and to be clear that it is what you want.

Many times when I look into the future for others and let them know when love is on the way, many times if it isn't right away, or if it isn't on their own terms, the response is, "never mind".

While I make no judgements as to the choices that a person makes for their own life, I do want to put a gentle reminder out there, that a case such as this where conditions are placed on a relationship that doesn't exist yet, it sets off some red flags about longevity.

If love has to be on your terms, just what else is this person that you want to love going to have to go through, to feel accepted, loved and feel safe to move forward and create some emotional depth and attachment once there is some chemistry there?

It may sound like a stretch, but hear me; maintaining the attitude that it has to be your way or no way at all, is something that will carry over into the relationship...and it hasn't even started! You think you are ready but love knows no bounds. You're not ready if it has to be your way or the highway, or you'll be dissatisfied.

Do not mistake that I'm saying you shouldn't have what you want. The qualities of a person are important and by all means, be clear about what qualities you are looking for. However, if you are putting limitations on how to love or how someone else can love you, that is a whole different ball of wax.

So how do you do it? How do you give this dream of yours to attract the most perfect person, your perfect attention, and be assured that they will be the right kind of person for you? Let's not magnetize a needy, emotionally unstable, relationship here;

The successful relationship/people-magnet does these things:

• They are their own source of happiness.

Relying on another person to create happiness for you, or expecting that a person will come into your life to make life happy makes you needy. It places unreasonable expectations on another person because what it takes for them to make you happy is conditional.

Be your own source of happiness. It is not until you can create happiness for yourself that you will be able to enhance the happiness of someone else's life genuinely. Why give the person you say you want to love less than the best. Is it being fair?

• They radiate the best qualities of themselves outward, in-turn magnetizing or bringing out the best in others.

Confidence, self assurance, vitality, giving and acceptance, compassion, patience, clarity --These are qualities that, when you are whole with them and you radiate those feelings within yourself outward consistently, it will attract 'like'.

Operating from the best within you and allowing it to connect with the best that is within someone else, is part of the process of creating and expanding in a direction that has more depth and dimension. When you operate and move through the world as one with doing and being at your very best, this comes back to you in ways that you may have never thought could be...such as attracting the perfect mate.

• It is a priority to create a foundation for the good expected to come.

Make room for the relationship before it happens. Be prepared and expect the unexpected. Expectant mothers make room for the relationship of their unborn children in too many ways to list, but in the best cases, before that relationship is even bonded, room has been made for it to exist successfully. There is preparation involved.

This means, take care of yourself. Get your own priorities straight. Do things that generate and nuture the relationship with yourself, your esteem, your goals. Set yourself up to win so that when this relationship comes to you, all things are in order, and the love that you want to make a priority remains a priority. Make space for it. The rest is managed.

The other way around, when you are placing priority on your career and other things, and then managing your love life -- that doesn't work, and it isn't fair.

Does this all sound like too much work? That comes with a relationship, too. Working at it... Are you really ready or do you just think you are?

So what do you really want. Really?

The actions speak louder than words, and the measurement of success is based on the results. Take the relationship of your future. You can make it as great as you set it up to be. Decide to take active steps and place priority and focus in this area to put the wheels in motion and you will make it not only wonderful for you, but wonderful and fair for the other person. Do not allow another person to settle for less quality than you would hope for yourself. Be great, shine, and just make it happen!

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THE SOULMATE CONNECTION -WHY IS HE SO AFRAID?

Entangled minds that roam the earth together-- You meet each other in your dreams. You know what is going on with the other person and they are a distance away. The connection you feel with each other has an energy that is outside of this dimension, and ahead of what this realm is ready for.

A soulmate connection for most, comes with great costs. For many this connection is bittersweet. With so much love and a sense of true communion and unity, it also feels like there is so much weight to bear with it.

He runs. Why?

When I have been contacted to be of assistance to someone trying to find clarity about soulmate issues, a common thread is that he will run. He will create distance. He refuses to commit. If he doesn't run, he finds a way to not go any deeper. It's just too much.

For some, he promised after the divorce, he would find you, but he's with another woman, knowing that you are the partner that would create an incredible life for him. For both of you.

The good souls that I speak to about it want to know why. What the hell is going on?

I wish the answer was simple.

Knowing that this relationship transcends the energy of the earth and moves into a realm that we are just beginning to try and understand, ironically, this is exactly one of the reasons he runs. The energy and its power is foreign.

The nature of a man and male energy is not primarily emotional. While you may share so many different ranges of very deep emotion together, being in that space experiencing such great power is more foreign to him than it is to you. Not understanding something is an open door for things to become unweildy. It can be scary.

The depth of the feelings--the wonderment that all of this energy brings has probably even been so immense for you at times that you have even felt scared. We as women being in practice with "feeling" are usually able to get a handle on our hearts and not let fear tend to take over so much in this area.

For men, the intensity is enough that it drives him insane. As if you both don't already ask each other, "What do we do about us?", for him the love and other reeling emotions are so intense that the blessing of this relationship becomes his personal hell.

All the while you're ready to take the plunge. Ready to dive in and experience all of the greatness and stand in your power together as equals; King and Queen of the realm you've created together. Ready to create and receive the most amazing gifts that God or the Universe could ever have put in your hands and he turns away.

What the real truth is for both parties that makes it so bittersweet, is that we know what fear is, and the number one reason that the relationship may not ever be what you hope, is exactly because the fear is overwhelming, and this is where it becomes complex.

There is fear that the success of the relationship will create too much power than he knows how to handle; Fear that what you will both create on a different level is so far outside of the comfort zone, it may cause hurt to a level that has never been felt before if you fail; Fear that this kind of love isn't deserved or hasn't been truly earned; Fear that for whatever reason the feelings are so expansive and the potential for success surpasses what we can conceive, it's easier to not go there. It's more painful than fun.

It doesn't seem to make sense that one could be overwhelmed with so much love they can believe that your life together would be the best thing for both of you, and not go forward with it.

In terms of what is in "this realm" and how to relate it to "that realm", the best I can do is relate it to that job you may have once dreamed or fantazised of having outside of the country on a whole other continent, and you never took the leap to move there and do it. Knowing full well it would have earned you incredible success, and that it was entirely possible to do it. All you had to do was go.

As mediocre as that example is, it is the only way I can describe how he fears taking that leap. The "move" requires so much to leave behind and start over with--and the new place being so foreign among other things is just so risky without having any guarantees on an outcome, it creates heavy conflict. It's easier to dream about it and be with it for short periods of time, than to actually live that life moment by moment.

It is no consolation to have it explained away on account of fear. We know that fear is irrational. We know that it is an illusion and a made up story about events that have not yet occured, but that is what the running is all about. Fear runs deep within us and has more control of the things we choose to have or not have in our lives than we give it credit for. But that is what it is. It is a travesty, I know.

And because it is no consolation and you still don't know what to do or say to him that could possibly change things to move in a more favorable direction, I can only offer my blessings to you to for peace of mind and healing of the heart. I will let you know that you are not alone by any means. Many soulmate connections experience these issues. They are very real, and the feelings of heartbreak truly run deep.

What I offer as my best advice to anyone if it makes it easier, is to begin to practice this: Let it be.

Be with each other expecting nothing but to be together. Enjoy your time. Want nothing more. Continue to grow and expand and share your wisdom with one another. If it is not in the stars for you to be together in this realm or in this lifetime, let it be. Stop wasting time on wanting more. Just be. That is how this love was created. From both of you standing in the light of just being.

The Universe has given you a gift to enjoy. It has given you everything you wanted in terms of feeling loved and letting you know that yes, you do deserve that kind of love. It is offering you the experience. Want nothing more than to just be with what you have. I know that it hurts to want it your way and not have it. I know that there is resentment about it. I know the pangs of wanting to just have him in your arms forever and not ever have to leave.

With gifts --we accept them as gifts and want nothing more if we truly receive them as such. Apply this to any gift you have ever received and have been grateful for, and you will see the connection. Let the gift be a gift. Want nothing more, and just enjoy being with it as often as you can. Be grateful for the experience, because you can apply this to other areas of your life, and yes you can create it again, because you were given the tools with this gift to know how to do it. Don't let fear tell you that you cannot!